After you get engaged, one of the first tasks is to decide on bridesmaids. It seems so simple, but as someone who doesn’t like to hurt anyone’s feelings this one was a little hard. There are only so many people you can have stand up with you. Narrowing it down can be a major task. Here are some tips to help you along the way:
- How many bridesmaids do you want/need? The going consensus is 1 bridesmaid for every 50 guests. If you have a large number of guests you may want to leave this by the wayside. Remember, it’s traditional to give your bridesmaids gifts. Also you’ll be providing flowers for each of these ladies. You have to look at your budget when considering whether to have 5 or 7.
- Personalities. There are all those personalities to look at. We all have that friend who is organized, by the book and unbending in her ideas. Is that the right fit for the maid (or matron) of honor, possibly? Think of the energy that each of these women have, are some high strung, some drama queens, some overwhelmed with goings on in their personal life? Taking a look at each person who is so close to you that you are considering asking them to be a part of your special day might save you headaches further down the road.
- Reliability. This also depends on how much you are going to ask of your bridesmaids. If you have a friend who is habitually late, forgets important details or just floats through life her personality won’t change when you make her a bridesmaid. You’ll want to keep in mind how organized and punctual your potential bridesmaid is.
- How does she get along with your future husband. I know that doesn’t seem like it will make a difference, but it does. When I was choosing my maid of honor I ended up choosing someone who had been extremely supportive of my relationship with my future husband. Another friend had been closer to me before the engagement, but had seemed downright angry and distant after the ring went on my finger. You want someone who is going to share in your joy and make your day the most blissful day ever.
- Finances. Not only yours are important. Take in to consideration if that bridesmaid will be able to not only buy shoes and a dress, but also take time off to go shopping, contribute to your shower and possibly have hair and make up done on the day of your wedding. It’s a touchy subject and you can always ask a close friend to prepare a reading, cut the cake or be a hostess at your wedding. It’s hard to think that not every one of your friends would be jumping for joy at being asked, but in these economic times it’s something we have to consider.
- Family versus friend. If it comes down to choosing between the cousin you grew up with or the sorority sister you pledged with, it’s probably a better idea to choose family. Friends come and go, but family is forever.
Do you have any tips you think we’ve missed? Leave us a comment!
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Another favorite is this handy Welcome to Our Wedding Tote. Functional and sentimental, it’s a great gift and so useful on the big day! Hairspray, makeup, extra hose and all the little extras we ladies all need to be beautiful fit right inside!Filed under Blogroll, Bridal Shower, Flowers, General Info | Comments Off
Planning a wedding is hard work. Let’s face it, the perfect wedding just doesn’t happen overnight. Flowers play a major part in determining the tone and feel of your wedding. So choosing the right florist is a big deal. Once you find the right one, then the details start falling in to place.
We thought we’d help you out with some tips on how to choose the florist that’s right for you.
First off, do you want a florist who just does flowers? That may seem like an odd question, but many florists are multi-taskers. They do cakes, flowers, decorations and sometimes planning. Do you want one person to be in charge of so much? Do you want that person heading in all directions? Maybe not. It might work if the florist has an actual team and assigns duties to each team member. That’s a big thing to consider. One stop shopping can work for some, but you have to evaluate if the person you choose can handle it all.
When interviewing a potential florist you may want to ask if they handle all the flowers in house. How many times have you called someone for a repair only to find out that the person who shows up to do the job is merely a sub-contractor? Find out up front if you will be dealing with the person you interview or if they are going to shop out your wedding.
Budget is always a big concern when you’re planning your wedding. Find out about any hidden costs up front. Will there be delivery or set up charges? Will there be a separate charge for set up at your reception venue? Will the florist need an assistant? Is there an hourly charge or is the price you’re quoted all inclusive? Make a list of pertinent questions to ask each florist you interview.
Get opinions of other brides. If your florist is trustworthy and has provided not only beautiful bouquets, but excellent service then they should be able to tell you some weddings they’ve done in your area. With as prevalent as social media is, you could also take to Twitter or Facebook to get some honest opinions. Also ask to see their portfolio. Most florists will be willing to show you candid shots of their work, not stock photography from the internet.
The last thing to consider is how well the florist can help you find your vision for your wedding. Not just what the florist wants to sell you, but also how considerate they are at keeping the tone of the wedding and if they can help you realize your vision within your budget. It could all come down to whether you feel comfortable with the florist.
Do you have helpful tips for other brides from finding the perfect florist? We’d love to hear them! Leave us a comment, drop by on Facebook or send us a Tweet.
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