It’s such a simple question — yet it comes with all sorts of questions you may not have considered.
Should you have children at your wedding party? How about at the reception? If you don’t want children involved, is there any tactful way to let guests know? Is it even right for you (rather than the parents) to decide whether children should be a part of your wedding?
Those are a lot of questions. But then again, it’s a fairly complex (and loaded) topic. Deny children at your wedding or reception and you’ll look like the bad guy. Allow them free reign and you risk disruption — children tend to be bored at weddings, and they’re unpredictable; their good days are very very good, and their bad days are, well, extremely not-good. (See? There really isn’t a tactful way to say it.)
I’m a mother. I love children — everyone’s children.
But I admit I have been at weddings where the children, uncomfortable in their fancy clothing, tired, bored, sometimes sick and often stage-struck, just aren’t…well…as cute as we want them to be. And I’ve felt just as sorry for the children (more so, if I’m honest about it) than for the distressed bride or the annoyed guests.
Let’s start out with the good news.
- Including children in the ceremony allows them to feel special and to know just how much you love and appreciate them. For a child, that’s huge. For a very young child, it’s everything.
- Children are sweet and innocent (okay…not always, but at a fancy occasion, they’re the personification of new beginnings). There really is nothing so adorable as a flower girl stage-whispering “hi, Mommy!” as she drops petals on her way down the aisle, or a little man holding the ring pillow with a look of intense concentration on his face. The photos will be adorable.
- Asking for a child to be a part of the wedding party is an honor for the parents as well.
- The children get to practice at “playing grownup” — okay, sue me, I tend to see everything as a lesson when it comes to children.
- Children at a wedding reception can surprise you. They may be at their very best. They love dancing with the grownups (and the grownups love it, too). And today, most wedding venues will offer children’s food plates, a definite plus.
…And then there’s the flip side of the coin.
- Not every child wants to be in the wedding party. Some children are shy. Others are just plain bored with the idea. If you try to make a little flower girl angel out of your tomboy niece, she may rebel, and will probably dislike her role.
- As I mentioned above, children get bored at weddings, at least semi-formal to formal ones. The night might end in tears, with the parent frustrated and embarrassed.
- Children are delightfully curious, hands-on and practical. They’ll want to touch the decor, they’ll want to run from one end of the reception hall to the other to count how many steps it takes, they’ll want to touch the bride’s dress with the hands they just used to eat the wedding cake with. That’s just kids. And as I said: it’s a wonderful quality. But if you have very definite ideas for the formality and style of your wedding, it will be disruptive.
So What Should You Do?
I did have children at my wedding and at my reception, and I had two flower girls. It worked wonderfully because my style is to involve the entire family and to laugh at foibles (remember the “enjoying the rollercoaster” analogy in Parenthood?). That makes me neither better nor worse than the next bride.
You need to make the decision that’s right for you. However, if you don’t want children at the reception, there’s really no proper etiquette for saying so. The most you can do in this case is to suggest to guests that children might not enjoy the style of festivities you have planned. Never directly ask parents not to bring their children — no matter how you try to word things, they will be hurt. Period. However, putting forth the suggestion that the wedding and/or reception will not be child-friendly can actually be a help to parents and prevent their and their children’s discomfort later.
If you know there will be children at the ceremony and/or the reception, try to dial down your expectations a little. Yes, this is your wedding, but let’s face it: life happens. Even if you’re wary of having children be involved, in reality, families include all ages. And let’s be real here: Uncle Frank with his anti-marriage opinions might be ten times the disruption a cranky toddler could ever be. So try to lean your ceremony toward your own wishes, but remember that people are people…whether they’re little or big. No matter what, your ceremony will be beautiful…I promise.
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Isn’t it romantic? You’re going to write your own wedding vows. Or…it’s romantic until you actually sit down to start writing them. What do you say? How do you say it? How can you make sure it’s heartfelt, not trite? And what will he be writing?
Don’t stress — as long as you write from the heart, you really can’t go wrong with wedding vows. Just in case, though, we’ve outlined the steps to writing your vows. Enjoy!
Step One: Clear it With the Officiant
One thing you don’t want to happen is to get to the altar and realize the officiant prefers to use his or her own set vows. More and more couples are writing their own promises nowadays, but you never know. So give the officiant a quick call before you start the process of writing.
Step Two: Give Eachother an Outline
It may sound unromantic, but the two of you really do need to establish the basics before you start writing your vows. You don’t want to be flipping pages at the altar and delineating the history of your courtship only to see him pull out the scribbled back of a store receipt and mutter ”I just really, really, really love you” in embarrassment.
So establish a basic word count (don’t make it too wordy — short and sweet is best), whether or not a little humor is okay, and what basic style you’ll use.
Step Three: Use a Simple Outline
The outline for standard wedding vows is simple. If you don’t want to do things this way, you don’t have to. But if you’re stuck, this easy formula can help.
- Begin with your partner’s name and the basics of your promise. “John, you are a dearer love and closer friend than I’ve ever had, or ever will have.”
- Continue with one memory from your courtship. “Everyone thought it was rather funny that I was the pursuer. But look where it’s gotten us!”
- Give the specifics of your promise. “I will love and cherish you, I’ll pick you up, be behind you in everything that you do. I give my heart to you as your partner and your very best friend. We may not always agree, but I will always, always love you and respect what you have to say.”
- Close with a simple sentence telling him that you love him. “I love you with all my soul, today, tomorrow, forty years from now — to wherever the future may take us.”
Step Four: Print Your Vows
You don’t have to do this, but it’s a nice and very beautiful touch. Have your and his vows printed on pretty stationery and hand them out along with your wedding programs as a keepsake. Or enclose a copy in your thank-you notes.
Step Five: Have a Copy With You
You never know how nervous you’ll be once you’re at the altar. Just in case, hold a copy of your vows. If you’ve memorized them, great! You can look into his eyes as you recite them. But if you stumble or forget a line or two, they’ll be right there for you to read.
It’s really so easy — yet it’s a memory that will stay with both of you forever. Enjoy the process, get creative and when you have a block on what to write next, think about your love for him. It will all come to you. And it will be beautiful.Filed under General Info | Comment (0)
Today we have a special treat for you, lovelies. Our friend Catherine, lifestyle blogger from London, UK, has agreed to write a guest post for our blog. She’ll be discussing great ways to cut costs on your big day. So without further ado, we give you:
Inexpensive (and Successful!) Wedding Plan Ideas
Planning your dream wedding can come with a big price tag. If you are looking to save on your wedding and still have a magical day, then here are a few things you can do to cut your expenses.
Plan a Smaller Wedding
Only invite people who really matter. Stick to sending invitations only to friends and close family. You don’t have to invite your second cousin’s aunt’s family. Invite people in your close circle.
Being with people you love on such an important day is what counts. Spending your wedding with such people would only make it happier and hassle free. You can have your perfect wedding this way and cut down on the spending at the same time.
Get a Steal on the Venue
Since you would be inviting only a close circle of people to your wedding, you can forget worrying about setting the date on a weekend. All your close friends will attend your wedding on any day.
So, get the best deals on reception halls by choosing a week day. Most halls offer cheaper services on weekdays. This way you’d get your dream location for a steal.
If you aren’t big on the location, look for halls that do not really host weddings. Another way of saving money would be to finalise on a location that allows you to have your own catering and doesn’t tie you down with a rather expensive package.
Hire Your Own Caterers
While most wedding halls offer packages that include catering, you might want to check for halls that let you cater your wedding.
Most halls charge a lot of money for such deals, while getting in your own caterers is a comparatively cheaper option to go with. This way you can also avoid serving bad food from unreliable caterers and hire people who actually give you what you want. You could choose the menu accordingly, and cut down on a lot of expenditure.
Do it Yourself
One of the easiest ways to save money is by doing it yourself. It is your wedding, who’d be a better judge of how things should be apart from you. You don’t have to shell out a lot of money for a wedding planner when you can do it yourself. You could turn your dream wedding into reality.
Don’t hire a DJ, be your own DJ. Make a CD with all the songs that you and your partner love. This would be a very romantic and sweet gesture to symbolise your love.
You could cut costs by asking a friend or hiring a non-professional photographer. Make sure you check the photographer’s portfolio before you hire them.
Limit Your Expenses
This could be probably the most important step to follow when you are planning a small wedding. Estimate your budget and then work on wedding ideas. Don’t spend a lot on trivial things. Look for cheap alternatives instead. Make a note of all the money you’ve spent on your wedding to keep your expenditure in check.
While you are cutting down on the cost of your wedding, remember that it is still a very special day. Don’t go completely frugal – just look for cheaper alternatives.
About the author: Catherine, life style blogger from London, loves to express her journey and travel related information, such as ESTA. She writes articles for blogs and websites during her free time. Did you like this post? Contact Catherine at email@example.com.
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The weather is topping the high 90s, the sun index is at a year high and the beaches are clogged with bodies desperate to beat the heat.
So why are we thinking about wintertime? Because our brides are! Yep, believe it or not, my lovelies, winter will come. And now’s the time to start finalizing your winter wedding plans.
White, White, White…
Of course, for winter, it’s all about white — so though I normally have a penchant for ivory, Navajo and other off-white bridal colors, I say for a winter wedding, go full-on white with the gown.
Another “wedding no-no” you can forego with a winter wedding: match your bridesmaids in gorgeous white. Just make sure there’s plenty of color interspersed (you’re still the bride, after all). A jewel-toned bodice with a just-above-the-knee flounce of white is gorgeous for your bridesmaids.
…And a Surprising Splash of Color
For you: be daring and add a splash of brilliant color with a sash, a hair fascinator or big bow.
Winter calls for dramatic jewel tones: royal purple, crimson or deep jewel blue are all beautiful.
Accessories and Add-Ons
Winter allows for more extravagance in your gown as well as your wedding and reception decor. Try:
- feathers – a feathered boa; white swan feathers around the base of your wedding cake
- gems – rhinestones and faux gems in your tiara, on hair fascinators for the wedding party and on vases for the reception tables, and on your cake topper
- metallics – gold and silver are gorgeous touches, especially on your gown bodice
- pearls – always gorgeous for any wedding, pearls are especially elegant for a winter celebration
Winter Imagery for Your Decor
Choose winter imagery for your decor and favors. Snowflakes, white birds, cranberries and winterberries, twinkling frosty stars, pine cones, mistletoe and anything green or red are gorgeous touches.
Snowflake-shaped placecards or placecard holders are a nice touch, too.
Put lots of candles on the tables. Candlelight creates a warm and beautiful environment for your wedding reception.
Festive Seasonal Favors and Gifts
Don’t forget the favors! Try these ideas:
- an elegant, simple pearl bracelet as your bridesmaid’s gift
- pearl necklaces for you and your wedding party
- snowflake-shaped favors, such as wine corks embellished with snowflakes
- glittering, decorated favor boxes
- warm baked treats (brownies or brownie pops, cupcakes, etc.)
As always, let us know what gorgeous ideas you come up with for your winter 2013 wedding — we love to hear from you!
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Calling all Fall 2013 brides! Have we got some pretty picks for you.
If you’re having your wedding reception indoors (and that’s likely, particularly in some colder autumn climates), you can still take advantage of fall’s beauty in the warmth of your reception hall.
Here are a few of our very favorite wedding favors that bring in all the beauty of the upcoming season.
Perfect Pair Candle
Still one of our favorites, the Perfect Pair candle was featured in Instyle Weddings Magazine in 2009. “Paired” with a mini version (featured in “Whose Wedding is it Anyway?”), this candle makes a gorgeous centerpiece for reception tables. Small: 2.5″ high; large: 4″ high. Tip: match your favors by serving up Perfect Pair brownie pops.
Autumn Magic Collection Leaf Candy Dishes
Aren’t these darling? Choose them for your reception buffet, guests’ tables or for your bridal shower. Each dish measures 5.25″X5.25.” For gift-giving, each comes in a clear-topped box wrapped in a pretty bow with a matching “For You” tag.
“Falling for You” Scented Pine Cone Candle
Mmmmmm. The scent of these really is divine. The 2.5″ candle comes in a box that measures 3″ high, so they’re suitable for gift-giving. Sold in sets of four. They’re perfect for winter weddings, too.
Pumpkin Patch Brownie Favors
Wow — our brides absolutely LOVE these. (Psst: so do we.) Each decadent brownie is double-dipped in chocolate and created into an elegant pumpkin shape. Your choice of ribbon styles is included. Please allow 5-7 days prior to shipping to assure freshness.
“Fall Impressions” Glass Photo Coasters
What an elegant way to gift your guests. These contemporary design fall leaf coasters fit a picture approximately 2″X1.75″. Each coaster is crafted of quality, sturdy glass and has four padded “feet” so no marks are made on the table. Insert your own photo or display with the “For You” message.
Orange Sunflower Cupcake Wrappers
Turn dessert into decor with this pretty Tuscan-style sunflower cupcake wrapper. (Cupcakes not inclued.) Simply place frosted and decorated cupcakes into wrappers. Arrange on the table or set one out at each place setting. These are also great for bridal showers.
Puffy Satin Heart Favor Boxes
Copper, antique gold and mocha are the perfect autumn colors in these shimmery gift boxes. Each has a pretty hand stitched-look heart at the center of the ribbon. They come pre-filled with your choice of white Jordan almonds, white candy coated chocolate hearts, white peppermint hearts or a mini lavender organza sachet.
Remember that you can easily blend rustic, “outdoorsy” looks with sophistication for a fall wedding. Silk, satin and organza matched with fruits, pine cones and twigs make a brilliant match that graces any wedding reception table. So too do fun, whimsical items — especially candy or cupcakes.
I have often felt that fall brides are the luckiest; they get the best of all worlds, wrapped up in the sumptuous colors that nature brings. It’s the perfect time of year for a new union — bright, beautiful, cheerful and sophisticated…just like you.Filed under Bridal Shower, Cakes, Flowers, General Info, Reception Basics, Weddings by Seasons | Comment (0)
So you’re hosting a baby shower. The guests have all arrived, the decor is perfect, the food is out…now what?
Baby showers are fun in and of themselves — the food selection and the opening of gifts provide entertaiment for the guest of honor and attendees.
However, some baby showers take a little something extra to get them off the ground. Here are a few great activities to get guests mingling and having fun.
Name That Tune, Baby!
Play music selections that have “baby” or “babe” in the title (“I’ve Got You, Babe” by Sonny and Cher, “Babe” by Stix, “Maybe Baby” by Buddy Holly, “Baby One More Time” by Britney Spears) and have guests guess the tune. The person who guesses the most titles correctly wins a prize.
Shh – Don’t Say “Baby”
Keep track of how many times the word “baby” is said during the shower (you might want to enlist a friend’s help for this) and who says it. Each time a guest says “baby,” she gets a diaper pin on her shirt. The guest at the end of the shower with the least baby pins on his or her clothing wins.
Who’s That Baby?
Ask each guest ahead of time to send or e-mail you a picture of herself as an infant. At the party, set up the pictures, along with a sheet of paper in front of each photo. Guests much guess which baby is today’s adult.
Celebrity Baby Match-Up
Print out pictures of the children of various celebrities. Also print out a sheet of the parents’ names and have it visible. Gather guests around and have them guess who the celeb parents are. The most amount of correct matches wins.
Present Opening Lotto
Set a timer for a random amount of time and face it away from the mom-to-be as she’s opening gifts. When the timer goes off, the guest whose present Mom is opening wins a small gift.
Fun Party Scratch-Offs
Buy game-of-chance scratchoffs. Guests can win small prizes such as a $5 gift certificate to a spa or to a coffee house.
Advice Book for Mom and Dad
Buy or make a pretty book with blank pages, or print or buy advice cards and bind them into a book. As guests arrive, have each sit down with the book and write out a piece of advice for the new parents. This will become a keepsake to treasure forever.
Baby’s Time Capsule
When you send out the party invitations, ask each guest to bring one item that symbolizes the time period Baby will be born in. It could be a CD of current music, a newspaper clipping, a piece of fashion clothing, etc. Gather these items as the guests arrive and put them into a pretty box. After Mom-to-be has opened her gifts, give her the time capsule as a special gift.
These ideas will get guests into the party spirit and open up conversations among guests who don’t know each other very well. They’re the perfect ice-breakers to make the baby shower awesome, so try them…you’ll be surprised how much guests get into a little fun and games!
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Call me crazy, but I LOVE it when the thermometer pushes up into the 90s. Where we live, we get a nice coastal breeze to offset some of the fatigue of a truly hot day, but with the brilliant sunshine and lazy, warm, vacation feel of full-on summer.
Now’s the time for beachy honeymoons (even close to home because the weather is so balmy and beautiful), cute sandals, and tote bags loaded with beach towels and a really great book or two. Come celebrate the season with us with these great gift choices.
Going somewhere, darlings? Keep track of your luggage with these fun, summer-themed luggage tags.
Each measures 4″ X 2.5″, with plenty of room for your identifying details so your luggage will never get lost again. Available in a minimum order of 12, these tags make great gifts or wedding favors. They’re also fun gifts for your bridesmaids if you’re having a destination wedding.
Wow! Sophisticated yet whimsical (and oh so very summer), these Murano glass place card holders make great keepsakes. Give them as favors or set them up on your reception tables for an eye-grabbing presentation.
Each is 3″ tall, with a sea-theme swirl throughout. A heart shaped metal holder is attached at the top. On the bottom, a clear base holds them in place securely on your tables.
Save the date magnets are great because your guests won’t lose them — and they won’t be surprised when the big day is suddenly upon them! Each is personalized with your info.
These courtesy reminders are beautiful as well as functional. They depict a tropical beach scene overlooking deep blue waters. A powder-blue sky arches overhead. Order minimum: 10 magnets.
Guests keep cool with these pretty fans. Personalization is available if you’d like to turn them into keepsakes.
With a pretty Asian flair and bamboo handles, these fans will be a most welcome addition to your warm-weather outdoor wedding. They’re also adorable on your reception tables, doubling as both favors and decor.
Cupcakes are the “next big thing” for wedding desserts! Brides are choosing collections of them in tiers, and they’re also perfect for wedding showers. These adorable wrappers have petals extending from the sides to make a pretty summer sunflower.
The example shown is just right — white icing with brown specks, like the inside of a fresh summer flower. These are a special-order item, so get your orders in early.
Summer goes by quickly, so make this one memorable. Here’s to a warm and wonderful summertime filled with good times, and memories that will last.
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We know how it is. You have big dreams – on a less than royal budget. (Been there.) Yet your wedding deserves the very best you can give it; it is a testament to your and your groom’s love for one another.
Dilemma? Not with these gorgeous cake toppers and cake jewelry! We’ve selected only the highest-quality, most “oooh”-worthy pieces for our favorsbyserendipity.com catalog (and for you). These pretty pieces start at just $39.98 (yes, really), and all of the choices show below are less than $120. Enjoy, princess!
Gorgeous clusters of 1” diameter Swarovski crystal make your cake special. There’s just something about Swarovski that really catches the light, setting off beautiful glimmers to highlight your pretty cake.
Arrange the crystals at intervals as shown, or have your baker place them randomly on the surface of the cake. You can also have them glued to faux flowers. $79 for a set of 12 medallions. (Also see our larger size medallions here.)
Like all things contemporary? Then you’ll love the gorgeous lines of these two nesting birds. One bird gently snuggles his partner’s neck in a show of true and forever-love. This topper is 5.5” long, the perfect size to grace the top tier of your cake.
Take them home after the wedding and use them as a table topper to remind you of your special day. Their meticulous quality means you’ll enjoy them for years to come. A steal at only $39.98.
Your first initial and his grace the top of your cake beautifully with these Swarovski crystal-glazed letters. Check out the detailing in the crystal flowers – simply gorgeous.
They’re set on a glimmering metal background to catch the light in brilliance during your reception. And they’re big enough for real eye-grabbing impact. Available in any letter of the alphabet on a background of either gold or silver; $69.99 for the set.
Dreams of romantic walks on the beach come to life with this simple – and simply elegant – starfish cake topper. It’s a pure, traditional “wedding white” and is graced with a cluster of seashells at its base. This topper stands 6” high for great visibility on the top tier of any cake.
Our Starfish is extremely popular for destination weddings, but it’s also perfect for a “closer to home” venue with a beachy theme.
Okay, all you princesses out there, this one’s for you! (And aren’t we all princesses on our special day?) This glazed porcelain creation sits atop your cake for a fairytales-come-true effect. Match it with other princess and traditional décor at your reception.
We love the detailing in this piece. (Click the enlargement in the link for a closeup.) And at the foyer are printed the words “And they lived happily ever after,” such a sweet addition. 6” high; $59.99.
Check out all our cake jewelry options here. And may all your wedding dreams come true.
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With fall just three months away — and the fall weddings that come with it — we’ve had a lot of requests lately about choosing colors.
I LOVE color in weddings. All white, black-and-white, etc. have their own impact, but adding onto those traditional hues can really transform your wedding.
But which colors? Well, to find out what’s hot for fall 2013, let’s start at the source. If you haven’t seen color guru Pantone’s palette for Fall 2013, have a gander:
Pretty, eh? I was glad to see at least one jewel tone in there (acai) and some dreamy summer cross-overs (emerald, mykonos, deep lichen green).
Overall, Pantone’s 2013 picks for fall seem to lean toward earthy, with a bit of a retro flavor. That makes sense — each of these styles is has been super-hot for approximately the last three years. That doesn’t mean the colors aren’t trendy and fresh; it means brides are continuing to love them. Which is a good thing.
Now, with that said: I’m not calling myself the Queen of Color or anything (though I do tend to have an eye for it), but I would have loved to see a few more intense jewel tones. Subtle and soft is wonderful, but a punch of “clear” color can really make the wedding.
Other than that, I like Pantone’s choices overall. There’s so much you can do with them, and they undeniably say “fall.” Here’s where you can use a splash of color to make your wedding beautiful:
Your Wedding Wear
Instead of the traditional all-white, select ivory or antique for your wedding dress color, then add a colorful sash or bow. A few faux colorful jewels on your headpiece look amazing, too.
The Groom’s Attire
Naturally, the boutonniere is the one place grooms and groomsmen typically show some color. So start there. He might also look into matching his cumberbund or choosing a different but complimentary color to the boutonniere.
How about turning things around and dressing your bridesmaids white or antique to match your gown, with ribbons of gorgeous color throughout the fabric? A fascinator for the hair is another cool color option for bridesmaids.
For a beautiful maid of honor gift, choose a real or faux gem necklace in a color that coordinates with your wedding.
Your Wedding Cake
Cakes are seriously dressed up this year. Have the bakery put pretty ganache “leaves” in fall colors around the base; add a few sprinkled on top. Edible candy gems around the base or on the sides is pretty, too.
Another way to add color: ask your bakery to use an all-over ganache in one of the above Pantone colors (or the fall color of your choice). That makes a very dramatic look and will be memorable to your guests.
Or choose a individual desserts in varying fall colors. Cupcakes, brownie pops or tarts covered in red berries are gorgeous and yummy.
Invitations and Wedding Favors
If there’s any time of year to go super-splendorous with color, it’s fall! Your wedding invitations will be unique if you choose colors that match your color scheme. One dramatic look that I’ve seen (and love) is a deep jewel-colored background.
Favors are another great way to add pizzazz. Either have the favors themselves match your wedding colors, or wrap them up in a colorful organza bow or in a box.
I can’t wait to see what our brides come up with for their autumn 2013 choices. Have fun with your selections, lovelies!Filed under Bridal Shower, Cakes, Flowers, General Info, Reception Basics, Weddings By Color, Weddings by Seasons | Comment (0)
So your sister, cousin or bestie is getting married or is expecting a new bundle of joy. And guess who’s been nominated party organizer — you!
Fun? Not for all of our readers, many of whom have written in to us with one simple cry: “Help!”
Not to worry, my lovelies. We’ve organized the most important tips to help you make the shower lovely — with minimal fuss, intelligent budgeting and as few headaches as possible.
The Attendees List
Your first priority is to get a list of attendees. You won’t know how large a space you have or the personalities of the attendees unless you gather a list.
Whittle your list down if necessary. If you just don’t have the space for every single one of the guest of honor’s co-workers, for example, then you don’t.
Find out what the bride-to-be’s reception colors will be, or what the mom-to-be’s nursery colors are. Matching decor to the color theme will make the party more special to the guest of honor.
Ask for help. Parents and siblings are your obvious first choice here. You will want help with setting up and cleaning up and possibly with finding the venue, cooking, etc.
Location, Decor and Food
Determine the date and find your venue early. Your smartest locale will be at someone’s home, back yard or even at a local park. (Choose a locale that doesn’t require a permit.) These locations are all free and will help alleviate total costs.
Make food arrangements. If the shower will be a potluck, ask a third of your guests to bring an appetizer or covered dish, a third to bring drinks and a third to bring desserts. We don’t suggest catering unless you will be very comfortable with asking guests for a monetary contribution. That can be tricky; know your guests and whether they’d find such an arrangement acceptable.
Buy or make the party decor. Do ask the closest family members for help with this. Split duties and costs evenly.
Four to Six Weeks Before the Party
Send out invitations a month ahead of the party date. You can e-mail or send invitations via the post office. I find the latter to make a great memento for the guest, but it’s your choice. Either way, an RSVP is a must.
Buy simple party favors for the guests.
Arrange ahead of time who will be helping you with the party setup; be clear with them what time they’ll need to be there.
At and After the Party
Give blank thank-you notes to the guest of honor during the party as a gift. She will want to send thank-yous herself; this makes it all easier for her.
Find simple party games to keep things hopping during the shower.
Have a definite end time for the party. You don’t want guests lingering, and you’ll probably be tired after the party is over and will want to have enough energy left over to clean up.
If things get a little hectic during this process, remember that being asked to host a shower is an honor. Really. The guest of honor will always remember that you made her day extra special. Have fun with the process and remember to take lots of pictures to commemorate this very special occasion.Filed under Baby Shower, Bridal Shower, bridal shower games, General Info, Tips to Avoid Wedding Disasters, Weddings By Color | Comment (0)